@lgbtq_plus Straight people will say that LGBT education isn’t age appropriate but will ask toddlers if they have a girlfriend.
#lgtq+ #hetero #straights #homophobia
It’s because they only associate queer stuff with sex, not with love
A lot of them don’t think of us as people, so why should they ascribe to us things that people have, like emotions and ambitions?
At this point I’m not sure if people honestly think that “LGBTQ+ education” means we’ll be telling 5-year old children about how to have intercourse with the opposite sex, or if it’s the garden-variety “oh my god! Two women holding hands with a wedding band! DEGENERATE PERVERTS!” hatred.
My grandmother did this and honestly I hated it. I’m cis and still felt so uncomfortable that I asked not to see her. Preschool and up every time she pinched my cheeks and asked if I had girlfriend and it went on and on, do you want to call her, what is she like, I bet you’re so cute.
I did not, in fact, have a girlfriend.
I still remember that grandma. I’m in my 30s and I remember hating that.
Why do people ask that to kids?
I guess because it’s seen as hitting a developmental milestone. Still creepy, though. I’m fortunate in that literally none of my family would ever pry about partners nor kids.
My grandparents have asked that before. Felt strange as one time they asked while I was texting my bf at the time
what does being cis have to do with not liking that?
I think that’s more for the context of the language technically lining up with their sexuality, but it was still uncomfortable.
it highlights the fact that, because it involved a cis straight context, this was all entirely acceptable to everyone around them.
if this person were trans rather than cis it wouldn’t think it’d have made a big difference considering are implied to have been a child at that point. what would be more revealing context wise would be if those around them were cishet or not, not what the commenter’s identity is
just that I didn’t have it as bad as others who probably had gender norms pushed on them on top of having grandmas embarrass them publically
right okay that makes sense
As an adult I’ve caught a ton of subtly raunchy humor in kids shows and movies. But straight parents don’t bat an eye because it’s good, clean, straight sex jokes in children’s media. This is not to say I’m against that, just that there would be torches and pitchforks if the jokes were not about straight couples.
There are only two sexualities. Straight and political.
It’s not that I’m actively educating my daughters about LGBTQ+ yet but they are at the age of learning about relationships and any time we or they talk about “when I’ll have a boyfriend…” we will comment “…or girlfriend whatever you’ll like…” I mean I at least try to keep them open minded while not forcing it, at least if and when the time comes they’ll feel comfortable to tell us.
I understand your intent, but I reckon kids know really early on. My daughter has been boy crazy since 5, so I never bothered with “or a girlfriend” type comments. But we do instill in her regularly that love is love and partners come in all types.
As a late 20s asexual gay person, I was in complete denial until my early 20s about my asexuality and until my mid 20s about being gay. Not because my parents weren’t accepting, but because society is heteronormative. Always good to reinforce an open, positive attitude!
I used to be embarrassed by my parents asking me if I had any girls I liked and then they’d always go “or boyfriend that’s okay too!”, but looking back I was glad they did, cuz it at least let me know they weren’t bigots.
@Victorixyz @lgbtq_plus
No they don’t! At least they don’t ask the girl toddlers that.I think you should consider replacing “straight people” with perhaps “insensitive people”. As a straight person and father of a 3 years old girl. I hear comments, mostly from older women, about my daughter having a little boyfriend whenever she plays with a boy her age. It’s ridiculous and in my opinion problematic because it sexualizes friendship and play between toddlers. This is not a straight person problem, it’s a generational problem. This is how cultural norms change and we should have compassion and empathy when calling out these dated view points but avoid generalized blame.
Perhaps applying a blanket statement to straight people isn’t a great idea either? I’m straight but think it makes complete sense for young people to learn about relationships of all kinds at what ever age they start learning about relationships. My personal approach is to stick with gender-neutral pronouns by default and to treat any relationship between consenting adults the same as any other. I’m lucky enough to live in a place where this is mostly normal and only the crazies have an issue with it. I also don’t ask toddlers about romantic partners.
As a side note: it’s not uncommon for seniors in Korea to ask to see, and then comment on, the genitalia of young children (not necessarily sexually). A practice which is dying off but still exists. Point being that I acknowledge there are still all sorts of different social norms out there in different places.