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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • Like some other posts say, no idea if OP wrote this, but if the author is looking here, I want to offer constructive criticism.

    There are a truly uncountable number of unjust things going on right now. There are possible solutions to many if not all those problems that exist. But no one has enough time I’m their life to fight every single injustice going on.

    Do you still eat eat chocolate? A lot of chocolate is still produced with what is practically or entirely slave labor. Do you eat almonds? Those are using enormous amounts of water in California, which is already facing a mega-drought. China still has horrible labor practices in manufacturing. Most Americans still have to drive cars and that’s destroying the environment. I could go on for hours.

    The point is, no one can possibly fight for every cause. Even the most dedicated, well meaning person will have to (indirectly) participate in some injustice. It’s honestly better for people to pick their battles. Find something you might have the power to change and focus your energy on that injustice.

    But don’t lash out at people who are already overburdened by late-stage capitalism and don’t have the knowledge or energy to fight the same fight you are.



  • Yeah, I’m sorry if I explained it poorly. I tend to ramble.

    If you are uncomfortable with all forms of PDA, thats valid. The source of your discomfort is the act. Not who’s doing it. And it would be a reasonable discomfort to accomadate.

    If your discomfort was because of who is doing the act, then thats just prejudice. If the only accommodation that would work to comfort someone is harmful to others, then they need to look inward for a solution.

    The point I kind of forgot I was making halfway through is that, while discomfort is valid and should be accommodated in society, discomfort is very subjective. Not everyone can explain their own discomfort accurately, and those that can might lie about it instead. So we have to be careful and try to recognize the difference between, “Your behavior makes me uncomfortable,” and , “Your existence makes me uncomfortable.”


  • I think one issue here is that discomfort is subjective. Discomfort is valid and an important way to gauge how we treat people. But its important to understand why someone is uncomfortable.

    For example, if someone is uncomfortable with me talking super loud in a small room, then the solution would probably not be to change my tone of voice or the topic I’m talking about. Its the volume thats bringing them discomfort.

    If someone is uncomfortable with others kissing in public, we might argue that its reasonable not to kiss in public for their comfort.

    But what’s the real cause of discomfort with two men kissing? Is it the kissing or their very existence? If two people loving each other brings someone discomfort because this person just doesn’t aprove of their lifestyle, what’s the solution, then?

    The comfort they are likely seeking is to never have to acknowledge that others are different from them. And they can only get that by limiting the freedom of those “others”.







  • I follow a ton of science related content. I’m not a scientist. I just find endless fascination in the incredibly complex universe we live in.

    I feel like there are levels of science knowledge. When you know nothing about how the world works, learning the basics and seeing it in action can feel really cool and magical. Then you learn more and it starts to kill the magic. Everything in the world can just be explained by particles and math. Boring. But then you learn more and actually its pretty fucking magical.

    Like, I understand just enough quantum physics to follow along with really simple science videos about it. But every time I’m just like (╯° □°) ╯Whaaaaaaat







  • I was laid off from my first real job out of college. The owner laid off about 30% of the staff and did not consult managers in the decision, so it was not really merit based, basically bad luck.

    I stayed positive and got a new job in less than 3 months. It had no benefits, but paid better. I was replacing a woman who really needed benefits and thats why she wanted to leave. After 2 months or so, she couldnt find anything and asked for her job back. So I once again got fired for no fault of my own.

    That hit me hard and I was unemployed and horribly depressed for 6 months.

    I survived that time with amazing support from my girlfriend. We burned through my savings then most of hers. She stuck with me through it all. I finally got a very low level job in state government.

    It turned out to be a great change. Better insurance allowed me to get medicated for ADHD and shots for my allergies. I got promoted over and over. I’m doing great now, but it would have been the end of me if not for my girlfriend, who is obviously my wife now.